Here is an anecdote which I share while addressing Parents: Two young boys were on a bike on an early Sunday morning. The road had hardly any traffic. However, the bike went out of control and hit a lamppost placed on the centreline divider. I ask the audience, ‘Who is responsible for the death of the youth?’
Some blame the rider for riding rashly; some blame the parents who gifted the bike. Others blame the lamppost, the road, the bike, the government and other factors. I point out that I had been through worse bangs on three occasions and happily I survived all of them. Sadly the two young men did not survive their first accident.
So often, we want to fix blame for something that could be just an accident. An accident can leave you dead, paralysed, with a few hurts or without any scratches. Simple ones can be fatal and complicated ones can be sans pain or stain. After all, accidents are incidents that happen unexpectedly and unintentionally.
Of course, crashes could have a cause. And while it is good to learn from an accident, it can be insensitive to insist on fixing onus, especially in cases which do not really involve us. Every occurrence may not require identification of a culprit. Chance and circumstance are possible factors too.
Often there are mishaps without any apparent or deliberate cause. They are just accidents. If they have nil or minimum damage: we may not get into an over critical judgemental approach. Yes we can and we should learn from the experience and that is about being developmental. That’s when we can truly move on!
Blame game restricts to being over judgemental
Accidents should lead to lessons developmental
~ Pravin Sabnis
Some blame the rider for riding rashly; some blame the parents who gifted the bike. Others blame the lamppost, the road, the bike, the government and other factors. I point out that I had been through worse bangs on three occasions and happily I survived all of them. Sadly the two young men did not survive their first accident.
So often, we want to fix blame for something that could be just an accident. An accident can leave you dead, paralysed, with a few hurts or without any scratches. Simple ones can be fatal and complicated ones can be sans pain or stain. After all, accidents are incidents that happen unexpectedly and unintentionally.
Of course, crashes could have a cause. And while it is good to learn from an accident, it can be insensitive to insist on fixing onus, especially in cases which do not really involve us. Every occurrence may not require identification of a culprit. Chance and circumstance are possible factors too.
Often there are mishaps without any apparent or deliberate cause. They are just accidents. If they have nil or minimum damage: we may not get into an over critical judgemental approach. Yes we can and we should learn from the experience and that is about being developmental. That’s when we can truly move on!
Blame game restricts to being over judgemental
Accidents should lead to lessons developmental
~ Pravin Sabnis
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