Pedro told his son
to go get water from the well. Before the son left, he slapped him and shouted,
‘make sure you don't break the earthen pot!’ Seeing the boy cry, a bystander asked,
‘Why did you hit him? What is his mistake?’
‘Better to hit him
now than to hit him afterwards if he does end up breaking it’, Pedro replied, ‘that
would be too late!’
Pedro was playing the world's oldest game of blaming someone.
But the pre-blame version is the worst. It is a case of picking a target of blame:
a scapegoat. An experienced player can pre-blame anything or anyone, at any
time.
While the pre-blame approach is unfair to the accused, it
is also detrimental to the player of the game. Those who pre-blame are low on
their ability to trust and end up being poor leaders. With the trust deficit,
they have low confidence in efforts as well as results. Their belief is weak
and they are a negative influence.
The opposite of blame is many things, all positive: forgiveness,
empathy, trust, encouragement, When we accept responsibility, we gain control
of our life. We enhance our well-being, relationships, and careers by reaching
beyond the blame.
marking a scapegoat is a dirty game
accept onus… go
beyond pre-blame!
~ Pravin K. Sabnis
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