Together Apart

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart

– from the prophet by Khalil Gibran

The pillars stand apart but still they support the same roof. There is space, distinctiveness, and yet there is a union and combination because they are supporting the same roof. It is pertinent to note that two pillars standing apart can carry a longer beam than if they were placed touching each other.

The feet run faster when they are not tied to each other. Two hands clap better when they move apart to come together and create the momentum for the sound of applause. Two persons find it easier to carry a big box if they hold on to separate ends. Large platforms stand on props that stand apart

It is the same for human relationships. Space is needed for each to increase the capacity of the partnership. It is necessary that one is not under the other’s shadow. Otherwise, the relationship will be restrictive in allowing each to grow and glow. Bonds turn sustainable by ensuring the required space that will nurture true togetherness.

We must understand that togetherness flourishes when partners stand together, but not too near together. They unite to impact not by their proximity, but by the resolve to permit the spaces in their togetherness. After all, the maximum possible potential of any relationship lies in the fulfilling of the potential of each partner.

It is not proximity that defines closeness...

Spaces ‘unite to impact’ togetherness!

                              

- Pravin K. Sabnis

Goa, India.