Monday, March 31, 2014

Quit the Fear

The members of BNI Aparant boarded the boat that slithered across the serene waters of the calm cove. As it entered the river, the waters got a bit more stirring. But when it entered the Arabian Sea, the perturbations made the boat sway. For the first timers, it was a situation that ranged from exciting to worrying. Reactions ranged from nervous singing to a disquieting silence.
Then we halted for the welcome interludes: a dip in the sea, barbeque on the beach, singing and dancing... On the return journey, the waters got worse. Yet, everyone seemed better equipped to deal with the challenge. Obviously, the morning experience had helped deal with the discomfort zone. Everyone stepped back on to land with a sense of achievement!
So often we rationalise our discomfort. Consider, we say ‘Networking does not matter; quality of work does,’ or ‘People who network grovel and I cannot do so.’ While these statements may be true, they often mask the reality: that we are afraid of networking or public speaking and can’t get ourselves to admit it.
Most of such fears are formed due to a previous experience or because of belief conditioned by other people’s experience or simply from never having gone through the experience. Either way, an alternate experience is necessary to unlearn that fear. Once we recognise that we are grappling with fear, we must move to overcome it.
The resolve to embark on the alternate experience is best fostered under the guidance of those have the experience and expertise. Safety measures are important too as they indicate prudent planning. Indeed, we must discover the happiness of stepping outside the comfort zone and coping with fear.
When we step outside our comfort zone, that’s when the magic happens. It’s where we can grow, learn, and develop in a way that expands our horizons beyond what we thought was possible. Of course it maybe terrifying and unsettling, but when we get the courage to take this leap, we will eventually develop the skill and attitude to actually pull it off, again and again.
 May we ‘unite to impact’ resolve, guidance and safety
Step out of the comfort zone and quit the fear surely!
                              
- Pravin K. Sabnis
Goa, India.

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