Alter Attitude

A woman approached her friend for poison to kill her hostile mother-in-law. Her friend cautioned her, ‘since, everyone knows that you hate her, it will be obvious that you killed her. Instead if you give her this slow poison every day, she will die in six months. In the meanwhile behave as if you love her. When she dies no one will suspect you.’

The woman started giving the poison to her mother-in-law; at the same time, she acted as if she loved her. Shortly, her mother-in-law began to reciprocate her love and caring attitude.

Now, the woman no longer wanted her mother-in-law to die. She rushed to her friend to ask for an antidote. Her friend calmly replied, ‘what I gave you is harmless. I knew that if you changed your behaviour to your mother-in-law, she would reciprocate with positive feelings towards you.’

Attitude is difficult to alter. But behaviour can easily change due to motives. A changed stimulus invites a transformed response. A renovated response gives rise to positive experiences which lead to a positively altered attitude.

So often, we crib about the negatives in others. But the attitude of others is also impacted by our own attitude that is reflected in our behaviour towards them. If we alter our behaviour we will discover positive impacts that eventually result in transformed thinking and altered attitude on both sides!

When you want other's attitude to change

Try altering your own  behavioural range!

~ Pravin K Sabnis

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HEARD OR HERD

Two friends were out on a walk alongside a busy road. One of them stopped and said, ‘I think I hear something.’ He put aside a loose paving stone to set free a cricket that was chirping.

His friend remarked, ‘that’s amazing… so many people are on the street at this hour, hurrying from work; yet you alone heard the cricket above all the traffic noises.’

The first replied, ‘people hear only what they want to hear. Right now, the noise of traffic has neither increased nor decreased… but watch.’ He dropped a coin from his pocket to the sidewalk. Everyone within an amazingly large hearing distance stopped and looked around.

The man, who heard the cricket, had been able to retain his childhood ability to hear well. This was aided by his interest in the sounds of Nature. The hearing ability of the crowd was restricted to materialistic motivations like the sound of coins. 

We are born with amazing abilities to use our senses, but for most of us, as we grow those abilities get narrowed down to hear and see lesser and lesser.

Whenever we say that we did not hear something, we must accept that the onus is on us to heed and hear. Never mind the distractions; we must be better at listening. We must rediscover the child that was born with the ability to maintain an engaging interest and hence could hear it!

Choose to be different from the distracted herd

With keen interest, every little thing will be heard!

~ Pravin K Sabnis

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Me Time

The term 'Me time' refers to time spent relaxing, focusing on oneself and doing activities purely for yourself. It is a conscious break from daily routines, work obligations and the demands of others, allowing you to recharge your mental and physical energy.

While it sounds simple, it is the thing most people never actually get around to. Life keeps piling on  responsibilities, chores and commitments. The choice of doing something just for yourself starts to feel selfish or even impossible. 

'Me time' isn’t a luxury. It is important maintenance. Without it, things starts to blur. You get irritable, forgetful, tired in a way sleep cannot fix. You are so preoccupied with things to do that you do nothing for yourself.

Me time resets that. It pulls you out of everyone else’s orbit. For some it is an hour with a book and no phone nearby. For others it is a walk without a destination, music in their ears. It can be what you really like: cooking, sitting on the floor to draw or just lying in bed staring at the ceiling.

'Me time' gives you space to notice what you actually think and feel, not just what you are supposed to do next. It connects you to your passion and the little joys of life. 'Me time' is you, undivided. And that version of you is the one everyone else gets the benefit of later.

'Me time' will reclaim my childlike grin

Just me, and the joy I choose to be in!

~ Pravin K Sabnis 

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